Post by wiganshrew2 on Apr 19, 2005 19:37:42 GMT 1
I am now "back in circulation" so I thought I'd put down some thoughts about the mens rights/women's rights issue.
Some fathers do undoubetedly have a bad time with mothers calling all the shots when a marriage breaks up.
I know about divorce in a family- and it's sad. We have one in our family and the eldest boy has undoubtedly been damaged by it. It's not through lack of contact with his father though- it's the conflict between two families with very different value systems.
Quite honestly, unless there's a case of cruelty and domestic abuse, people should try and stick together.
Marriage isn't easy- it has to be worked at.
Love isn't just about having the right feelings, it's about being loving.
We have friends whose daughter just got bored with her marriage and went off with a man from work. There's a lot of it about.
Of course the grass sometimes looks greener- and in the workplace, women can come across powerful and attractive men. But what would you do when the excitements's worn off and you've sacrificed your marriage- for what?
I think that, in our society, women are out at work and some get tempted the way men used to get tempted- not just with other men- but with the idea of freedom and not having to answer to anyone, pleasing themselves.
There's times when, I confess, I feel that I'd love to do just what I wanted without having to consult my husband!!!
In the last resort is it just that our society has become selfish? Is the drive for "self fulfillment" taken over everything else?
Some of my more feminist friends think I'm a downtrodden wife or something!! They think a working woman should be able to do as she likes and spend what she likes.
If I was really downtrodden, I'd have hardly most of my qualifications since I've been married- and I wouldn't be going to Shrewsbury supporting my team!
I'm a graduate, he isn't. It doesn't matter to me, because I can't mend anything- and he can mend most things. But it could matter to him. So I feel I have to let him be "the man of the house". Some younger women would be horrified that I've said that!!
I sometimes think that if a society whose values and laws were once based on Judeo-Christian values has largely ditched those values- they need to be replaced with something better than just selfishness.
I say that not as someone who thinks they're good- but as someone who struggles to be even a little bit good!!
Some fathers do undoubetedly have a bad time with mothers calling all the shots when a marriage breaks up.
I know about divorce in a family- and it's sad. We have one in our family and the eldest boy has undoubtedly been damaged by it. It's not through lack of contact with his father though- it's the conflict between two families with very different value systems.
Quite honestly, unless there's a case of cruelty and domestic abuse, people should try and stick together.
Marriage isn't easy- it has to be worked at.
Love isn't just about having the right feelings, it's about being loving.
We have friends whose daughter just got bored with her marriage and went off with a man from work. There's a lot of it about.
Of course the grass sometimes looks greener- and in the workplace, women can come across powerful and attractive men. But what would you do when the excitements's worn off and you've sacrificed your marriage- for what?
I think that, in our society, women are out at work and some get tempted the way men used to get tempted- not just with other men- but with the idea of freedom and not having to answer to anyone, pleasing themselves.
There's times when, I confess, I feel that I'd love to do just what I wanted without having to consult my husband!!!
In the last resort is it just that our society has become selfish? Is the drive for "self fulfillment" taken over everything else?
Some of my more feminist friends think I'm a downtrodden wife or something!! They think a working woman should be able to do as she likes and spend what she likes.
If I was really downtrodden, I'd have hardly most of my qualifications since I've been married- and I wouldn't be going to Shrewsbury supporting my team!
I'm a graduate, he isn't. It doesn't matter to me, because I can't mend anything- and he can mend most things. But it could matter to him. So I feel I have to let him be "the man of the house". Some younger women would be horrified that I've said that!!
I sometimes think that if a society whose values and laws were once based on Judeo-Christian values has largely ditched those values- they need to be replaced with something better than just selfishness.
I say that not as someone who thinks they're good- but as someone who struggles to be even a little bit good!!